Miscarriage is one of the hardest thing for a woman be it in any stage of the pregnancy. Every woman experience and associate differently with it.
Tips on how do you cope thereafter
- Never Blame Yourself - About 40% of miscarriages have no medical explanations. 20% of miscarriages are because of chromosomal abnormalities in the fetus.
- show your emotions – let your feelings out. Share it with your loved ones. Crying out willl make healing process faster
- It is ok to grieve- Give each other support. Woman may show more compare to Men. tell your hubby that it is ok to be sad and cry. grieve your loss together, not towards each other. Move on when you are ready but do not take too long.
- Give your child a name- Through this way ,your child is remembered.
- You may conduct a memorial service for your child and keep the child's belonging in a special memory box
- Pray for your child each day
- Do not lose hope- 90% of woman who experience a miscarriage will have a successful pregnancy the 2nd time.
- Go to support groups to help you cope in the early days
- You can have a blog or write out your feelings and emotions
- When things become too much (e.g depression), seek professional help
- If you at the early stage, take a week to rest your body. Build up on your health with proper rest and diet
- If you have a miscarriage after 5 months, do your confinement. It will help you to regain your health and strength and be better prepared for your next pregnancy.
- Remember God loves your child.
This was extracted from a young woman who experience a miscarriage after 9 weeks of gestation. She found God offers her reassurance when she reads the bible (Psalm 139: 13-16) .
She wrote " "I literally held my baby in the palm of my hand. As I stared at her tiny form, crying that God would give her back, I couldn't help but notice the intricacies of her already-formed fingers. There were five on the end of both arms and each finger stretched out from the other, so that I could see how delicately she'd been growing inside of me. Psalm 139 reminds me that through each process of her development, God watched her in amazement. He 'knit' her together. How incredible. And I take comfort in the fact that He must have loved her just as much as I did and still do-i as her mother, He as her creator. Verse 16 offers even more reassurance. God knew every day my baby would have. He knew she'd have nine weeks of life inside of me. God was okay with that amount of time and I think I can accept that. I miss my baby terribly, but I know that she lived each and every day she was given, developing as God intended. And now she's in Heaven with Him and He can hold her until I'm ready to. My husband and I named her Angel. She's our Angel in Heaven."
