This is a big question that many couples fear especially the woman. In Asia, women are still more conservative when we talk about sex. Even when consulting our doctor , it may seems pretty embarrassing or awkward. Often after childbirth, our concerns are the recovery of our womb, our overall health and also is the baby fine and many more concerns. Lovemaking is probably the last thing on the back of our mind.

For a dad, it could be the first thing that come to his mind when it is ok to resume this activity. Normally lovemaking is as usual during pregnancy except to be a little careful especially when the tummy is huge. For some couples, it could be a 'NO' due to pregnancy complications and conditions. This is a great challenge emotionally and physically especially for your husband. So ladies, it is very normal if your husband has this thought right after you deliver. Generally it is pretty safe to resume sex life after 2-3 weeks for a vaginal birth. If you had an episiotomy, wait until your stitches is removed. For a caesarean delivery, you have to wait at least 6 weeks before resuming and ensure your incision has stopped bleeding and is healing well.

5 tips to help you when you resume your sex life

1. Pick a Dark Room – Dim the lights as many woman feels insecure with their body especially the flabby tummy and rails of stretch marks after childbirth
   
2. Lubricate- make sure you use lubrication as usually the there may some vaginal dryness due to hormonal change. It is also to minimise any pain during lovemaking

3. Let go of your fear- Some woman may feel discomfort or afraid . Talk as a couple and learn to relax yourself

4. Have a towel nearby- you may have leaking milk. If it is a turn off for your hubby, wear lingerie. You still can be sexy in it

5. Create the Mood- Have a warm bath, light some candle or play some music. Get yourself relax , Have some cuddles and hugs .

For mothers, you may lose interest in sex but remember this is only temporary. Husband , give your wife some time to adjust herself .

If you want to have expert tips and based on real experiences tried & tested on how to have a better sex life, below is on guide that will definately help you .

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